What would your partner say about you?

This is one of the most important questions about your relationship, as the answer determines the longevity and quality of your relationship.

This is something men rarely talk about, however I had the opportunity to see a pattern amongst high achiever men.

Do You recognize yourself?

-You are successful in your job.

-You are responsible for the financial well being of your family.

-You see this responsibility as normal, however if you are honest, you experience it as high pressure & a burden when it comes to your inner peace or decision making.

-You are working a lot, trying to get all the certificates possible & often worry about your performance.

-You feel disconnected from your family, as you don’t spend much time with them and when you are together you have difficulties to be present & you feel guilty.

-The conversations with your partner are mainly about the children, logistics or household.

-You don’t take much time for your friends, hobbies or self-care.

-You definitely don’t sleep enough.

-You often feel exhausted and unsatisfied with your life, even if you know “you should be happy”.

-Your partner rarely tells you words of appreciation.

-She does not understand how much it takes to perform at this level.

-You can not share your worries with her, as you would not want to put that on her.

-You live in a different world: hers is around the home, yours is much more about the company.

-She is just as exhausted as you are and lives in a similar vicious circle to yours.

-You do not take enough time to spend quality time together.

-You truly love & appreciate her.

-You wish she would know this & you could truly see and feel each other again.

The challenge:

You have never learned to balance your life or to merge your high achieving career self with the wonderful parent or partner who you really are.

Being fulfilled in your private life and successful in your career at the same time is possible!

How?

1. Choose it!

2. Practice self-care and putting yourself first regularly and allow your partner to do the same.

3. Learn to re-connect and communicate with your partner at a deeper level.

4. Commit to keep the romance and love alive.

5. Get better in setting boundaries at work.

After reading all this consider:

What do you need to do and tell your partner today for her to feel seen, heard and appreciated?

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